Common Myths About Teen Dating Violence

Published 12:00 am Wednesday, June 9, 2004

Living Free – Liz Johnson

Certain misconceptions about dating violence can set the stage for unhealthy relationships. Know the facts:

It can’t happen to me. More than 1 in 10 teenagers experience physical violence in their dating relationship.

Girls like guys who take charge on a date. Being bossy and controlling is very different from being strong and confident. No one likes to be controlled by another person.

I know I’m being treated badly but without my date, I feel like nothing. It may feel like an unhealthy relationship is better than none at all. Your feelings and needs are important and treating one another with respect is the only way to have a good relationship.

When a date says “no”, it really means “no.” It’s always important to take people at their word. If a date says “no” that person means “no.”

If I just try a little harder, my date will treat me better. Hitting or other forms of abuse are never the fault of the person who is mistreated. The abuser not the victim needs to change the behavior.

If I tell people that my date is abusive and violent they will think it is my fault. It is common for abusers to say their dates are to blame. The victims then think people will hold them responsible for the trouble. Victims of abuse are never to blame. By breaking the silence about abuse, victims are likely to find the help they need.

Jealousy and possessiveness is a sign of true love. Jealousy and possessiveness is a sign that the person sees you as a possession. It is the most common early warning sign of abuse.

(Information provided by A Dating Violence Handbook: Louisiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence)

If you are a victim of teen dating violence, remember you are a gift from God. This gift is to be valued – loved and respected with all the beauty Your Heavenly Father had in mind when He created you.

Living Free Ministries

Liz Johnson

P. O. Box 2815

Reserve, LA 70084

(985) 652 – 9938