By MONIQUE MICHEL / L’Observateur / January 6, 1999

In my last article I printed my list of desired qualities in a future mate. After reading it, some of my friends and family members remarked that I wouldprobably be single for the rest of my life. My dad worried that I would be living with him forever, and my MawMaw and PawPaw Michel told me that I was being way too difficult. My theory is: why settle for second best or something less than I want and feelTwo of my male friends swear my list was modeled after them. I can guaranteeyou this is not the case. After reading their list of the qualities they desire in a wife, a remark was made that we’ll probably all spend our lives growing oldtogether – in a retirement home.

One letter I received agreed with me on most of my points, but disagreed with a few of them. This letter mentioned that maybe some of my points seemed tooparticular or stubborn. The author of the letter reminded me that I’ll probablymake mistakes and shouldn’t assume that anything that goes wrong is automatically my husband’s fault. He closed the letter by urging me to notcompromise on the issues that are important to me. I really appreciate all ofthe responses I’ve received after writing that article. (Well, maybe I didn’tappreciate my dad’s response!) Hopefully, reading the list challenged married people to be the best that they can be in their relationships and encouraged single people to carefully choose people who they may be spending the rest of their lives with.

I’ve often heard it said you should only choose a date that would make a good mate. But, I guess the bottom line is that whether you’re choosing a mate, a date or a friend, it’s important to choose wisely. Proverbs 13:20 states, “He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.” Thepeople we spend time with will definitely affect us. It’s important that weassociate with people who will influence us in a positive way. Couples who havebeen married for many years are sometimes told that they begin to look like each other. I don’t know about looking like each other, but according to Proverbs 13:20, they may begin to act like each other. Let’s choose our friends wisely.I would welcome any questions or comments. Please write to me atstraightkids@juno.com or P.O. Box 1493, LaPlace, LA 70068.

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